Going from a parent becoming the dependent one and the child becoming the hierarchy in the relationship can be tough on both ends. The hardest part of that transition may be the first time you have to step in and “stage an intervention” because there is an area of life that your parent needs to let go of and you know they won’t want to. So what are the signs that its time to step in and suggest or directly take action to make that change in your parents’ lives?
When it comes to driving, your dad or mom’s doctor will be able to help determine if your parent is physically able to drive anymore. When the senior citizen’s eyesight dims to where he or she cannot distinguish details in the distance or when depth perception is poor he might not be able to judge where the intersection is, or if he stopped at the stoplight or in the middle of the intersection, the time is right for Grandpa to give up the keys and let someone else do the driving.
The time to start the process of moving mom or dad out of their own home and into an assisted living facility may be more tricky to determine. As with driving, the senior citizen will mount every effort to appear to be competent to continue to live independently. That ability to live on our own, go where we want to, when we want to, and take care of our own needs is fundamental to who we are and our self-esteem, that the transition from living on their own to having everything done for them is emotionally difficult to be sure.
You, as family members and as the caregiver for your parent need to watch for the signs that your parent’s ability to take care of the house and of themselves living independently has come. Some of the symptoms of the need for change are…
Talk to your elderly parent about the risks of living alone, particularly in a scary situation like being unable to get up. By the time such a frightening incident happens, your parent may suspect it’s time to go somewhere they can live with greater security and safety.
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